It’s been a surreal week. Midway through it I received a phone call from a good friend who has just returned from the third family holiday of the year. However this time instead of talk of how great the holiday was I was greeted with an “I'm in financial difficulty and could I borrow some money from you?” A little clarification revealed we weren't talking about twenty quid until next payday but thousands of pounds. I was dumbstruck. Why?
My friend is intelligent, has a very similar educational background to my own and has been working a similar amount of time. We have similar jobs, albeit at different companies, but I would guess our salaries are probably within 10% of each others. We do however live very different lifestyles. To give some examples:
I must be clear here. I don’t begrudge my friend’s family any of the above. Everyone in this world is entitled to live their own lives and make their own choices. I've chosen to Save Hard, Invest Wisely and Retire Early which today means I have accrued 72% of the wealth I need to secure financial independence. My friend’s family has chosen to live for today. I’d never really thought about the differences between us previously but when you look at the differences above we are at very different stages in life and on a very different life path. The now clear disparity in wealth really did bring the book The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley into the forefront of my mind. The only difference is that I don’t have a million pounds nor do I think I will need that much for financial independence as I've found plenty of ways to live well while spending less.
My friend is intelligent, has a very similar educational background to my own and has been working a similar amount of time. We have similar jobs, albeit at different companies, but I would guess our salaries are probably within 10% of each others. We do however live very different lifestyles. To give some examples:
- In my friend’s family only 1 of them works. In my family 2 of us choose to work.
- My friend’s family chooses to live in a lovely part of London in a very nice rented house. I live with my family in a small rented flat in a less salubrious part of town which is actually perfectly adequate for or needs.
- That lovely house above is not well insulated and so already has the heating on where I'm still yet to even consider it.
- My friend’s family choose to holiday at least 3 times per year. My family has a single holiday each year along with a family visit for Christmas.
- My friend’s family is always dressed like they've just walked off a catwalk. My family while wearing clean, neatly pressed clothes are a little out of fashion and contain the odd darned sock.
I must be clear here. I don’t begrudge my friend’s family any of the above. Everyone in this world is entitled to live their own lives and make their own choices. I've chosen to Save Hard, Invest Wisely and Retire Early which today means I have accrued 72% of the wealth I need to secure financial independence. My friend’s family has chosen to live for today. I’d never really thought about the differences between us previously but when you look at the differences above we are at very different stages in life and on a very different life path. The now clear disparity in wealth really did bring the book The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley into the forefront of my mind. The only difference is that I don’t have a million pounds nor do I think I will need that much for financial independence as I've found plenty of ways to live well while spending less.